When your boss is high-maintenance
My boss is repeatedly accusing me of questioning him and stating things differently than he has set out in our project. I have been with the project for 4 months, so I do not have an innate knowledge of the very unique factors this project has.
He is an incredibly bright and sincere person, who one day joked that he was obsessive-compulsive and I perceive that he is not consistently well-received by others.I feel like I am trying to learn the "right" and "wrong" things to say. And I have also confirmed that in areas where I have more experience (given the extensive purview of the project) there are items that I see differently. Even so, I will not question him in public and I will go ahead and implement his final word.
Despite my commitment he comes back to rehash this issue repeatedly. While I reaffirm him (which ironically seems necessary), I cannot give him any more significant closure about "toeing the company line", because when I have misstepped it has been mistakenly. Sometimes that provokes him to pull out other things, like the in-appropriateness of me giving him feedback one day.
Interesting, interesting. Setting boundaries is something that healthy people do, it is quite a n interesting journey when as a subordinate you are forced to continue to reinforce them. What an incredibly tiring quandary for everyone involved! A compassionate push for a win-win must not be possible in these scenarios. Thoughts?
